Are you to blame ?

Are you to blame for the bullying?


If you are being bullied by someone else, whether it be another child at school, a teacher, a work collegue or even your boss. You are not to blame.

The person on the receiving end of someones bullying is never to blame for being bullied. The bully is the one with all the power that is why they bully someone who is different, quieter or less confident then they are.

They are the one that needs to bully someone else in order to feel better about them selves. They get a pay off from upsetting the person that they are bullying.

A child who is a bully will most likely grow up into an adult bully. In some cases it is just there personality and they don't realise the consequences and what it is like to be on the receiving end. Others do it to make them selves feel bigger and powerful in the eyes of their peers. They might not even remember doing it when they grow up they will remember being popular and having lots of friends they won't remember your reaction they probably won't even remember you when they grow up.

An adult who is a bully has to put someone else down to make themselves feel superior and better then the person they are bullying. Unfortunately if this is your boss that is doing the bullying it puts you in a very difficult position.

Remember they are the one with the problem not you.

Just because you are bullied is not a reflection on who you are or some quality that you possess. No one is perfect. Everyone has flaws. You need to concerntrate on your good qualities and accept the parts of yourself that you don't like. As both your good points and your bad points make up who you are.

It has taken me twenty years to realise that I like who I am. I will meet people in my life that don't like me - and if they don't and decided that the first time we met - well it's them that is missing out on knowing someone who is worth knowing. I now concentrate and improve my good qualities and accept my bad.

Just because someone doesn't like you is no reflection on you as a person. How can it be when they have judged you on your appearance or something you did or said in the first five minutes of meeting you. Who gets to know someone in that amount of time no- one. There are some people in life that just don't make a good first impression. I must be one of these people. However when given the chance I make an excellent long term impression. And it's the long term that really count. There are people out there that make a terrific first impression. But then when you get to know them better they are mean, selfish and full of themselves.

Do you really care what some one you just meet thinks of you. Are you are bad person just because they don't like you. NO NO NO you are not. During your life you will find people who like you, people who love you and people who hate you. That's the way life is. Love the ones that love you, be friendly to the ones who like you and who cares about the ones who hate you. If you've done nothing to be sorry for then let it go. It's their loss not yours.

Basically bullying starts because someone decides for some reason that they don't like you. That is their choice and the reason might be totally untrue and just a fabrication in there mind. A presumption of who they think you are. And just because they think it doesn't mean that it is true.